Period sex is one of those divisive topics; some love it, some are concerned about the mess and some are still grappling with the taboo. Though it can get a bit messy, it is safe, sexy and also has benefits!
Pleasure is good for you, especially during those 5 or so days of bleeding and if you do a little prep, sex can be just as enjoyable. You might be surprised to find that sex is even more exciting during your period!
For those amongst us who are new to period sex, see below for 3 of the most common questions I’m asked about having a bloody good time:
Absolutely! There are heaps of benefits:
Relieves menstrual pain: Pleasure/orgasm can relieve cramps. Menstrual cramps are a result of the uterus contracting to release its lining. When you experience orgasm, the muscles of your uterus also contract. Then they release. That release can bring some relief from period cramps.
It feels good: Pleasure triggers the release of feel good neurochemicals called endorphins, which can be the perfect remedy for those feeling flat.
Builds connection and pleasure: many say they feel tender and vulnerable when they’re bleeding, sensual pleasure is a powerful way to feel connected with your body or someone else. Oxytocin also known as the "cuddle hormone" or the "love hormone," is released during sex, and can lower our defences and strengthen our emotional bonds with others.
Increased desire: Your libido changes throughout your cycle, thanks to those wonderful hormonal fluctuations. Arousal is different for every human, and some may be too distracted, uncomfortable or in too much pain to even contemplate being touched, but others are horny AF. That's because your estrogen and testosterone are low on day 1 of your cycle, but they start to rise by day 3. Some report they feel more aroused and more sensitive to pleasure around this time.
Provides Natural lubrication: Blood acts as natures lube, which can make sex more pleasurable
Relieves headaches: Around half of menstruators who suffer from migraines or headaches get them during their periods. Although most people with menstrual migraines avoid sex during their attacks because they’re so debilitating, many of those who do have sex say it
If you’re having sex with someone else, protection and safe sex practices are always important. You can still get an STI during your period, and some are more easily transmittable because viruses like HIV and Hepatitis live in menstrual blood. Have your partner wear a latex condom, or a dental dam every time you have sex to reduce your odds. If you or your partner are allergic to latex, there are other forms of protection you can use (ask sexual health professionals, your pharmacist or doctor for recommendations).
Mess prevention can help with your sense of ease and can allow you to really enjoy the moment. Here are a few tips to make period sex a more comfortable and less messy experience:
Don’t let your period put a halt on your pleasure. If you do a little prep work, sex can be just as enjoyable and sometimes even better during those five or so days as it is the rest of the month.
Georgia Grace is a certified coach, writer and pleasure activist. Her mission is to inform and empower people to enjoy their body (and others).
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